7 Signs You’re Not Ready to Get Married Yet
Published: July 1, 2014 | Updated: October 13, 2020 | Posted by: Moneymax | Lifestyle
Getting married not only entails a big amount for the wedding, but this will drastically affect your finances with your life partner in the long run. Age is also not the sole basis of readiness for marriage. You could be 18 or 50 years old but still willing to commit.
Do not be swayed easily into making this big decision. Here are common signs you’re not yet ready to face the next big chapter of your life:
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1. You’re in an unsteady relationship
Your on-and-offs are bad signs that you can’t handle a relationship. It doesn’t always mean that if you’re in a long-term relationship, you’re good to go. If you can’t handle the worst from a person now, you really can’t handle it even more in the period of marriage where problems are bigger and complicated.
2. You’re just pressured
Are all your friends and family walking down the aisle? Have you been so romantic about these trending stage wedding proposals?
Don’t let external burden interfere your life decisions because after all, it’s your life and not anyone else’s.
3. You’re still romantically-in-love with your partner
Some experts say that if you’re past the romantic love, then you’re ready to go. Most new lovers are still in the stage of getting to know each other, everyday praises, every minute of texting, dreamy dates and all romantic things. This is not to say that when you’re married, you can’t do all these. When you say “I do”, you have more priorities and responsibilities that are far more important than being passionate about your partner.
4. You have unstable income
The unwritten golden rule is that you should have at least three months worth of survival money in your bank account, but if you really want to get married, you should have more. Financial stability before marriage will help you on, at least, the first year of your marriage. When you start to live on your own, all expenses are coming your way – every day – and that will increase over time as you move along with your life. These include house rent or home mortgages, maternal expenses, babies, education, retirement funds and a whole lot more. If you think you’re not emotionally and financially ready for all these expenses, you’re not ready yet for marriage.
5. You have trust issues
Trust is one of the many foundations of a marriage. If you have unusual trust issues that always trouble your mind, there might have been a big problem in the past that will be apparent as you go along with your future spouse.
Help yourself first on overcoming what worries you so you could come anew when you want to have a good start.
6. You’re unwilling to compromise
Marriage is a never-ending process of compromise. It’s okay to stand by your dispute but it’s also important to listen, settle your thoughts, and accept. Practice finding the middle of the ground on all your life decisions and you’re ready to go.
7. You have no big picture plans
The wedding is just a one-day thing. After it is another chapter of your life yet to be discovered.
If you’re just looking at the wedding day itself, then you’re screwed. It is important to have a plan from Day 1 of your marriage. If it’s not your thing, you’re not yet good to start a life of your own.
The “When you know, you know” principle is vague. Marriage should be prepared for – physically, emotionally, and financially.
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